Those 18 years have flown by but what fun we’ve had.
So now you can have your 1st (legal) alcoholic beverage, drive a car and attend appointments without a parent.
It’s a bitter sweet moment seeing you grow up into an independent lady.
We’re so proud of you and everything you’ve achieved. It’s been a challenging year or so for you, losing close loved ones, juggling a new job, A levels, driving lessons and some health issues but despite it all, you just get on with it and give it all your best shot.
You’re an old, wise soul, mature beyond your 18 years, but you’ll always be our little girl!
Motherhood is precious but childhood goes too fast.
Happy 14th Birthday Son, we’re sure this will be one you won’t forget (lock down 2020!)
We are so proud of the young man that you’ve become I don’t think any parent could wish for a better Son than you, your love and respect shines through in all that you do and your polite and caring personality makes us so proud to be your parents.
We have to thank you Dylan. You were easy from the start.
Easy conception, easy pregnancy, easy birth and easy to love.
I also want to thank you for making me a more ‘Present Parent’.
First time around as a new mum everything’s new and frightening. You just don’t really know what to expect or know what you are doing?
It’s a learning process full of doubts, tears and fears!
So caught up in dirty nappies, sleepless nights and parenting anxiety, it’s hard to enjoy those first few years as a new mum.
But by the second child most of us are feeling a bit more confident, but alas, sadly for some, complacent.
You taught me how to enjoy being a mum. And how to appreciate every minute as special. And you always make us smile!
Your love made ordinary moments most would take for granted as precious and unique.
You made me notice them.
You made me present to the joy of being a parent and of being your Mum. A privilege I’ll always hold dear. Such as the time when you were just three years young. I was taking you to the Dentist, when as we were holding hands and crossing the road out of the blue you said;
‘I love you Mum.’
I can still remember to this day thinking that this was such a good moment in my life. I wanted my mind to photograph it forever, so that when we were both older, we could look back upon that ordinary moment, with fondness of a great time. A time when we were both truly present together, enjoying one another’s company.
We were just going about our daily business. Yet, it was such an extraordinary, emotional moment for me. So much so that, I can still feel those positive, loving, warm, fuzzy feelings deep inside me, whenever I recall that moment now.
As normal and mundane as a trip to the dentist with your child may sound, I can guarantee that in years to come, you too will realise how special those everyday moments in time really are. Even if those moments do not feel like it today. Even the loss of their 1st tooth!
One day, those simple everyday memories, will be where you will linger longingly, wishing you could go back to.
Noticing, appreciating and being fully present in those moments we are spending with our children today, is what Present Parenting is all about.
Because one day those moments, will be some of the best moments in our lives.
They truly are priceless, irreplaceable nuggets of time, that we all too often take for granted because, we are disillusioned by the concept that, the work and worries that occupy our minds, are the things that need our attention the most.
Yet, neither now nor in the future, will anyone or anything, ever bring us the joy, fulfilment or happiness that our children do.
It’s who we are with, and the love and time we give that counts!
If today was the only time we had left on Planet Earth, chances are we would not want to clean our house or work overtime, schmoozing our boss for a pay rise. Chances are, we would want to spend our time with our loved ones, having fun and letting them know how much we love them, while appreciating, how much we too, are loved by them.
We don’t always remember the dates or details in life, but we always remember how we felt, this is what our children will always remember too. It doesn’t matter what we have or achieve in life, it’s all a waste of time, it’s who we are with, and the love and time we give that counts!
Childhood doesn’t last forever. When our children reach their teens, it’s going to be too late to regret, not having had the time to, paint, play, cook, read, sing, dance and enjoy our time with them, while young.
Make the most of now, and start to live in and enjoy each and every moment with your child, from now on. Tomorrow is promised to no one, stay present and be generous with that time. If you knew this was your last day ever with your child, you would hang on to their every word and not waste a single second of that time, and bear in mind, one day will be the last day you spend together.
There’s no time like the present, and no present like time!
As a Childminder, whenever one of my little ones start school it’s always a proud, yet emotional moment for me.
Those bonds we
share everyday are strong and although they are not my own children, a piece of
my heart goes with them on their 1st day at school, as I fondly
remember them as babies and; their first babblings, to articulate words and sentences,
leaning to feed themselves, spag bol up the walls Picasso style, potty
training, learning to crawl, walk, skip, hop, jump, make marks on paper (or
furniture, floors and walls!) sing their
first nursery rhymes, funny comments, and building their first brick tower or
They are all mini
moments in history, etched on our memories forever.
In these moments
of reflection, I feel proud that I’ve helped them, along with their loving
parents, get this far. Helping to build foundations I know, will set them in
good stead for their futures of unlimited possibilities.
Who knows what each child will become?
Every child has the potential to benefit society
and even change the world.
Right now, you’ll never know the impact your child may have upon
In the absence of
other people’s opinions and limiting beliefs, children can realise their
dreams. If we felt when we were younger, that becoming Prime Minister wasn’t an
aspiration that we could achieve, that doesn’t mean our children can’t. I
suspect Margaret Thatcher’s parents didn’t expect her to become the first
female Prime Minister of the United Kingdom, and the first female Head of National
Government in Europe, but she did it!
From humble beginnings
we all grow!
Yes, today one of our little ones, starts her first day at nursery, and I’m reminded how very lucky I am to share in their life, and to have been given such a great responsibility and privilege, as we have with all the other children before them and yet to come.
Not one child we
have cared for over the past fifteen years has just been another child. Each
child is special, all unique individuals, impacting our lives in numerous
different ways, all thankfully good.
I can remember
every single one, even those in their twenties who refuse my Social Media friend
requests today lol!
And we are proud
to be Godparents to many too.
So why do I love
Today I was told I was loved, and all it took was a
Today I felt the love and all I did was read a
Today a child fell over and all I could be was
I COULDN’T WORK WITH KIDS
People joke, ‘I don’t know how you do your job; I
couldn’t work with kids all day!’
And I ponder why?
As I swing in the sunshine at the park, listening
to all the children laughing and playing.
I get to walk through nature every day, alongside
little inquisitive people, who see everything with fresh eyes and awe, no
matter what the season.
They get excited by the allure of a puddle of rain
water, they notice the clouds that pass them by, the ever-changing trees
swaying in the breeze, and the birds singing, while balancing on its branch
Such simple things tend to please.
IT’S ONLY THE SCHOOL RUN
Yes, it’s only the school run and a normal day just
like any other, we may be all hurried and worried and racing to get it done, but
young children find it fascinating, amazed but such simplicity and beauty. They
see what we’ve forgot to notice.
Everyday I’m blessed to have little friends who
point these gifts of nature out to me, for without them, I would be oblivious
to all the splendour around.
TREES ARE GREEN
All too often I hear a child asking a grownup;
‘What colour are the trees?’
And the grownup will smile knowingly and say;
‘Well, trees are green.’
But a child will know better.
Yes, children are younger and wiser, their mission
always fun, naturally happy and full of possibilities, of things not yet done.
Love, laughter and joy is always present,
especially when working with children, that’s why I love my job!